Everyone’s out here on a journey to “find themselves in Christ.”
Sounds cute. Sounds spiritual.
But let me be real with you.
If you’re still trying to find you, maybe you haven’t actually lost you yet.

And Jesus didn’t say, “Come discover yourself.”
He said, “Deny yourself.”
That’s not the same thing. Not even close.

The Throne Is Already Taken

You don’t get to invite Jesus into your life and then stay seated in the captain’s chair.
This isn’t a co-pilot situation.
It’s not “Jesus take the wheel” while you still hold the map, the gas, and the playlist.

If you’re still calling the shots…
Still filtering obedience through what feels good…
Still chasing peace on your terms…
Then you haven’t surrendered. You’ve just spiritualized control.

That’s not discipleship.
That’s a delayed dethroning.

Jesus is King. Not co-star. Not consultant. King.

Identity Isn’t Discovered. It’s Inherited.

People keep saying they’re “on a journey to discover who they are in Christ.”
But identity in Christ isn’t something you craft or chase.
It’s something you receive.

And you receive it when the old you dies.

You’re not uncovering some hidden masterpiece deep inside.
You’re laying your life down so He can build something new.

This isn’t a makeover. It’s a burial.
And it ends with resurrection.

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away. The new has come.”
— 2 Corinthians 5:17

You don’t get to keep the old and add a little Jesus to the side.
It’s a total surrender. Nothing less.

It’s Still Not About You

Let’s be honest.
If your walk with God is still centered around your wounds, your calling, your dreams, your need for affirmation…
Then it’s still centered around you.

Jesus didn’t die to boost your self-worth.
He died to give you new life.
But only after you lay yours down.

Want to talk identity?
Try this:

• Slave of Christ (Romans 1:1)
• Crucified with Christ (Galatians 2:20)
• Dead to sin, alive to God (Romans 6:11)
• Vessel for His glory (2 Timothy 2:21)

None of those titles scream main character energy.

Surrender Is the Shortcut

Real identity doesn’t come through months of introspection or journaling or soul searching.
It comes through crucifixion.

You lay your life down.
And He gives you a new one.

You’re not meant to find yourself.
You’re meant to lose yourself.
That’s where the Kingdom starts.

“Whoever wants to be My disciple must deny themselves, take up their cross daily, and follow Me.”
— Luke 9:23

If you’re still asking God to “show you who you are”…
Maybe it’s time to stop asking and start dying.

Get Off the Throne

You don’t need more affirmations.
You don’t need another feel-good devotional on identity.
You don’t need to figure yourself out.

You need to surrender.

Let Jesus be King.
Let Him rule.
Let Him tear down what needs tearing down.

And in the ashes of your surrendered self, you’ll finally become who He already said you are.

Not because you found it.
But because He gave it.